My sister and I are 6.5 years apart. And she hated me growing up. I was always the little, pesky sister who wanted to hang out with my older sister and all of her friends. But I wasn't wanted. I was the little sister who tended to be the center of attention. And she didn't like it.
So, we didn't get along.
Until I was 12.
She went to college.
Then she decided that if she didn't have to live with me, I was ok.
I think it took both of us growing up to realize that we were all we had! Each other. Siblings. And we actually liked each other!
And now she and I are very close, thankfully.
It just makes me think about timing. Life is all about timing. (Deep Thoughts by Anne. That one's for you S & S!) When is the right time to adopt a sibling for Miles? How far apart should our kids be?
I think the short answer is that there IS NO ANSWER.
It doesn't matter how close or far apart siblings are. It just matters if it is the right time for your particular family situation.
I keep thinking that I will know when the time is right. I feel like I will know when we are there. I haven't felt that yet. And maybe it will never come? In some ways I feel like our family is not yet complete and that little girl I have always dreamed of has yet to join our family. But again...there is no right or wrong answer here.
When I get the pang for another baby I am often quickly snapped out of it my the shrill screeching of my toddler throwing a tantrum. And then I am back to reality!
So, are we there yet? No. Not yet.
But maybe someday?
Life is all about timing.